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9th April 2021

I am more than just mum, I AM MUM!

Hi Steph here, how are doing?

When I became a mum I found that soon I was no longer Steph I was Mum.

You may be thinking – “well yeah obviously!”

Yes obviously I knew that when I got pregnant in 9 months I was going to be a mum. What I mean isI was no longer just Steph. I was caregiver, milk provider, story teller, nappy changer, nurse, entertainer just to name a few. I had this whole human being fully dependant on me. ME!

How daunting is that. Yes you have help from your partner, family and friends but ultimately you are that baby’s whole world. They depend on you for everything.

And to everyone else you don’t really matter, all they ask about is your baby.

              “Aww how is baby doing?”

              “Are they sleeping well?”

              “Wow, haven’t they grown”

You just want to scream, I AM STILL HERE, I AM STILL ME.

However, I soon realised yes this little person is attached to me for the rest of our lives but I DO still matter. My role has changed I can no longer be selfish and only think about me. I have got a pretty amazing reason to get on with being the best person I can be.

So I am no longer just Steph, I am MUM; which is the best possible version of me. Everything I do, I accomplish, I fight for is not just for me it’s for my baby.

I am my baby’s whole world and it’s the best role to be!

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29th January 2021

Mummy Club Recommendations

This recommendation is from one of our yummy Mummy Club Members:

www.rueandcole.store

“Products I can’t live without and actually work!
When my little girl was born I made it my job to find the best quality of everything she had. At about a month old we needed moisturiser as she had dry skin that was actually eczema. A mix of being at home (thanks lockdown 2.0 & 3.0) with central heating aswell as the cold when going out for walks. We heard that Aveeno was good so tried it and it is good but her skin just drank it up and would be dry again.
Then I was introduced to rue & Cole by a friend, and we’ve never looked back. Just within a few days of use it’s helped her eczema loads and the best thing it’s all natural! No nasty chemicals! It just melts when you rub it onto the skin and stays there! No disappearing act!
The whole family can use the balms and there’s some great products for mummy time. I’m eyeing up the space masks!
Every mum needs rue and Cole balms for their family.”

25th January 2021

Mummy Club Recommendations

This recommendation is from one of our yummy Mummy Club Members:

“I want to tell you about these two mats I have found to be brilliant with preventing leakages. Mainly for saving time, washing and disturbing sleep in the early hours:

Washable Bed Protector from Complete Care Shop

Koo-di Wetec Baby Seat Protector

I starting using the Bed Protector before Baby H was born as I was worried my waters would break in the night and I didn’t want to have to be scrubbing the mattress during labour (you literally don’t know how it is going to go do you). After I gave birth I used it for when I was breastfeeding in the night, in case my milk soaked through my clothes on to the bed; and when I as feeding Baby H and he was a bit sick etc. Now H is toilet training we have it on his bed, so if he has an accident all we do is remove the mat and change his pyjamas and he’s straight back to sleep without the fuss of stripping the whole bed down. The mat goes straight in the washing machine and is dry in no time. It is great to take on holiday too.

The Baby Seat Protector is great in case of nappy leakage when travelling and also great when toilet training. Trying to take the car seat cover off is such a pain and it never goes back on right. I have also used it in his pushchair. The mat goes in the wash, perfect.

These two mats have been a massive time and hassle savers, especially when there is sleep to be had. “

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1st January 2021

Welcome to 2021.

I think you would agree 2020 was not a great year but we have got to look at the positives (I am trying to be positive!)

2020 started so well; went on holiday to Scotland where I finally got to see a highland cow in real life(I am a bit obsessed), the biggest Munchkin was loving life at nursery, the littlest Munchkin was growing into a very cheeky but adorable little boy and we had planned many adventures with friends and family.

We had heard about this bug that was spreading very rapidly in China but didn’t really think anything of it. Then it was being reported that cases of the COVID-19 bug were popping up in the UK. OK I thought it’s just another bug to be aware of. Then all of a sudden it became this huge pandemic all over the world.

We had booked to go away to Anglesey in North Wales, which is pretty much our second home. We were just going away for the weekend and it was at the time where it was recommended to just take extra precautions like washing your hands more regularly and no physical contact. So we thought yeah that’s ok we can keep to ourselves and just spend most of the time on the beach.

As we were there it became more and more obvious that something extraordinary was going to happen. On our last full day it got announced that you need to social distance to not go anywhere where you don’t need to go and restaurants were to close. Great it was our last night and we had planned on going out for a meal, so take away it was. And then the next day it was announced in Anglesey that all beaches, parks etc were off limits. So we managed to get a holiday in literally the weekend the whole country shut down. Looking back I realise how fortunate we were to get that weekend away at the beach.

It was then announced that we were in lockdown; no school, no work unless essential, no travel, nothing. And like most people I was in shock. Lockdown life was happening. I could dwell on all the negatives from that period but honestly what’s the point, everyone (and I mean EVERYONE) was dealing with the same issues and problems and in some cases where in far worse situations than I was so I can’t really complain. All I will say is it was HARD!

But it made me appreciate things more. I had my family, my kids, my health, my house. I was just so glad the weather was nice and we could spend most of the day in the garden. And it made me realise I needed to talk to my friends and family more. I didn’t appreciate before lockdown the importance of friends and family; I love them but I took the concept of friends and family for granted. It wasn’t until you can’t see them that you realise how much you need them. So it made me make more of an effort to communicate and reach out to them. Where before we talked and meet up but we all had our lives to lead now they became my lifeline to the outside world.

Plans were lost but they can be made up at a later time. Money was lost but we were safe. Physical contact was lost but how much more are we going to appreciate that hug.

2021 things are pretty much the same but we can do this. We have spent the last 9 months adapting to this new way of life, what’s a few more months? This year I am determined to make the most of what comes my way, whatever that may be.

My aim is to write on here at least once a month. I will write about being a mum and all that brings. I will share things that I have found interesting, toys and activities that have worked or not, and tips and advice that have helped me. I would also love to get your feedback, your story, so if you want to share anything please feel free. You can either leave a comment or email me directly.

Let’s make this space a community to get together and share our lives together because let’s face it we have got to stick together.

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28th December 2020

It Takes A Village

Hiya,

How you doing?

They say when you have a baby it takes a village and how true that is!

I am very fortunate that I have big support system around me, husband, mum, dad, in-laws, sister-in-law, sisters from other misters and the list goes on.

So I just wanted to use this post as an appreciation post to all the grandparents, aunties, uncles, friends, ones who you call aunty but aren’t really (you know who I mean), family members and partners and say thank you.

From all the mums out there thank you! Thank you for your support, your patience, your guidance, your friendship!

I have learnt that I am very fortunate to have this amazing support system around me because some don’t have it. And I will not take for granted what I have.

I have decided this blog is not just going to be for new mums but for everyone. Yes it’s called Mummy Club but you don’t have to be a Mummy to be in the Club. Let’s be a village together.

So I am calling all Partners, Grandparents, Aunties, Uncles, Sisters, Brothers, Sisters from other misters, Friends lets come together. Let’s support each other through our experiences, our life lessons, what has worked, what hasn’t. No question or topic will be too daft. Let’s get talking. We are in this together.

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18th December 2020

Welcome to The VALLEY® Cushion Mummy Club. On here I will posting things I found really helpful as a new mum including; information about The VALLEY® Cushion and it’s benefits, activities I enjoyed doing with my munchkins and guides on what I found useful at different stages of my munchkin’s lives. First of all a little bit about me.

Hi, I’m Steph. How are you doing?

When I was a school all I wanted to do was look after babies (they are so cute! Little did I know what that really meant, but more about that later). When it came to choosing my career it was no brainier – childcare. I went to college and got my degree in Childcare and Education and landed myself a job in a Private Nursery working my way up to Deputy Manager. While working, I met my future husband, got married, got a house and then it happened I got pregnant. We were really excited to extend our little family, but I had mixed emotions about my career and my future. As my pregnancy progressed I came to the conclusion I wanted to make sure home life outbalanced work life. As my due
date got closer we were really excited (and impatient) to meet our little Spud.

And then it started. Labour. Words cannot describe the incredible (and painful) experience of labour. It is amazing what your body goes through during labour. I started with contractions early in the afternoon and thought here we
go! I tried to sleep that night but it was impossible. I stood looking out the window, doubled up in pain, thinking how long is this going to last. I looked over my shoulder and saw my husband, Will, sound asleep (well that is just typical, hehe). The morning came and I was exhausted. My contractions weren’t close enough together yet to go to hospital, so I had a bath and got back in bed. Late afternoon came and my contractions were getting stronger and closer together. Will phoned the hospital to see if we could go in yet. They asked to talk to me, I took hold of the phone and they asked me a few questions (I can’t remember what the questions were, I was just thinking I WANT THIS PAIN TO STOP) but I got told if you can talk on the phone you can’t be that far along so stay a little longer at home and take some Paracetamol (WHAT!) Will ran me another bath as I was pacing around trying to fight through the pain (by the way the Paracetamol didn’t do anything). A little while later my Mum came to see how I was getting on. I was still in the bath but could not
move for the pain as the contractions were so close together. So she said forget what the hospital said you are going.

We got to the hospital and waited for what seemed like forever to be seen. When they finally got me strapped up onto the monitor and finally got me gas and air, they examined me and said I was 8 cm dilated! They quickly got me into
a labour room and we settled in. By this time I was beyond exhausted and thought how am I going to have the strength to push. But you have no choice! It was time to push. I pushed and pushed and pushed! but she just wouldn’t appear.
They decided to help out and use a suction cup. I ended up with a 4th degree tear and an episiotomy but she was born and she was perfect. I wasn’t. There were complications with the placenta so I was rushed into theatre for them to
remove it. I was given an epidural and I thought this is amazing if only I had this hours ago. When they had finished with me I went back to the labour room and found Will holding our new little baby and our new life as a three began.

Then the epidural wore off!! I felt everything: bruising, swelling, stitches. Labour pains were forgotten and a whole new set of pains took over. While I was lying in the hospital bed it wasn’t so bad but when I sat up, WOW! I couldn’t do anything to relieve the pain I was suffering. And then I had a baby to look after, how was I going to do it? Then my Dad came to the rescue. My Dad manufactures The VALLEY Cushion for UT Care Products and brought me one. Finally I could sit down and concentrate on what really mattered caring for my new baby. I used The VALLEY Cushion everywhere. Not only did it give relief to my physical pain but also to my mental state. I could now relax. From then on things got easier.

As my maternity leave was nearing its end, I was more adamant then ever I wanted to spend more time with little munchkin. So together, we decided that when it was time for me to go back to work I would only go back 3 days a week. Unfortunately, the nursery I worked for wasn’t in position to offer me part time work so I was really unsure of what to do. Then my Dad came to the rescue again and said he needed someone to help run the day to day running of The VALLEY® Cushion for UT Care Products and the rest, as they say, is history.